Thursday, 9 December 2010

May her patience be rewarded

It was on this day last week my wife received a telephone call from someone at her hometown. It was unexpected news. My mother-in-law has passed away while seated at the living room. Her death was discovered by a neighbour who had come to visit my ailing father-in-law.

I say that her demise was unexpected because it is my father-in-law who is the weaker of the two. He is now 95-years old and has been bedridden for more than 4 years. He suffers from most of the ailments inherent of old age but the primary affliction is prostate cancer that I previously wrote about two years ago, here -> Internal plumbing.

My mother-in-law, on the other hand, was still able to move about on her own and except for her history of hypertension, was comparatively in better health. Actually she was not exactly my mother-in-law... because my original one passed away in September 1998. After a year of her passing, my father-in-law remarried another lady because he felt that he still require the companionship. At that time, my new stepmother-in-law, if there is such a term, was already a widow of more than 30 years. It actually puzzled me a bit why she agreed to marry my FIL, because it was quite clear that the ensuing years would entail difficulties. My FIL is not a young man anymore, he can hardly be called wealthy and he is known to be short-tempered.

Over the years of this new marriage, she tried her best to take care of my FIL. As the old man's health deteriorated and his need for attention became more demanding, the challenges became tougher. There were voices of dissatisfaction from both sides of the family. At one instance, some of my wife's brothers even took the drastic attempt of trying to separate them.

But the will of the Almighty is great... the old couple remained together despite the troubles and my stepmother-in-law did her best in carrying out her duties. She may have grumbled a bit, here and there... but that's to be expected. Taking care of an old and temperamental man is not easy work by any means... but she stuck to the job very well. Only Allah swt can repay her for her patience and kindness.

Hajjah Satirah Bt Omar passed away on 2nd December 2010 at the age of 74. May Allah swt bless and protect her soul. Ameen.


Pat said...

I'm so sad to hear of your loss, Fadhil. She sounds like she was a decent human being, and a good wife. Which wife doesn't grumble now and then, eh?

I think she must have married him for his companionship, just as he married her for hers. It seems really lonely, this growing old, with children with families of their own, and for a myriad other reasons.

May her soul rest in peace.

Kama At-Tarawis said...

Innalillah & Al-Fatihah.. semoga Allah swt merahmati rohnya..

DrSam said...

Alfatihah buat Hajjah Satirah bt Omar. membaca entri ini membuat saya insaf dan lebih menghargai anugerah kurniaan keafiatan diri.

Anonymous said...

Really sorry to hear of your loss.

The two elders would have some good years of companionship...and that's the important thing.

Kindly extend my condolence to your Mrs.


zafi said...

Al Fatihah...

Nurie said...

inalillah.... semoga roh arwah dicucuri rahmat Allah swt. Jadi isteri yang byk bersabar, insyalah banyak pahala...

Anonymous said...

Dear Mr Oldstock,

I am so sorry to hear about your MIL's passing. May her soul rest in peace.

Oldstock said...

Dear friends,

Pat, Kama, Dr Sam, Allan, Zafi, Nurie and Andrea,

Thank you all for your kind thoughts and wishes.